Indeed, the honeymoon period in a marriage does not last forever. In fact, you start to forget the fluttery butterfly feelings that you had for your beloved one once the reality of marital life hits you. However, there are actually many ways to keep your marriage fresh.
1. Always remind your partner how much you appreciate him/her
Despite being married for many years, I noticed that my parents would still kiss each other whenever one of them walks out the door. It does not have to be a passionate kiss; simply just a peck on the cheek would remind your other half that he/she is important to you. The simple action shows that you love him/her. This action does not have to be taken by the husband; actually, the wife can take initiative to do such little acts to maintain the affection between the couple as well.
2. Show your gratitude
It is important to let your other half know that you are thankful for their kind acts. Even though being married for years, it is important to remember that your partner is not obliged to do anything for you or on your behalf, so it is important to remember to thank him/her for the acts of kindness and care that he/she has shown towards you. It maybe just be bringing you your morning coffee, but he/she has put that effort into caring for your needs. The intention itself is already worth praising.
3. Be honest with each other
The one major thing that causes couples to break apart is dishonesty. You may think it is a simple white lie, but lies are lies. By keeping a lie, you are building a wall between you and your beloved, which eventually becomes so hard to bear that it would end up being a burden in your relationship. If you are unhappy with something or you were at fault for doing something, it would be best to voice out the problem and resolve it as soon as possible together.
4. Maintain your appearance
It is really easy to let your appearance slide. Especially after many years, you feel so comfortable around each other that you would start forgetting about grabbing your beloved one’s attention. However, think back. When you first met, would you go out on a date with your husband in sweatpants and flip-flops? It is important to pay your beloved one the same courtesy as you would to your friends when you go out with them.
5. Be empathetic
Think about some words/actions you would use/do towards your other half when you are annoyed or angry. How would you feel if he/she said those words to you? Would you be comfortable hearing them? If you feel that it is unacceptable to you, then it is absolutely unacceptable to say/do it to your other half. Of course, they would be more accepting towards your flaws or mistakes than your friends would, but it doesn’t mean that you should take them for granted and use them as your sand bag.
There are actually many ways to keep your marriage fresh. Do you have any further ideas of keeping your marriage fresh? Kindly share your insights and thoughts with us!